Adoption : sonship / daughtership

You are probably wondering if there is a difference.  Yes, with the word ship at the end, it means a legal process, and full inheritance. It means we have a new identity.  It is more than we lived in a home, thought of this person as dad, he is the only dad we really know. Our birth dad, does not matter he is ‘no one’ to us. But this dad, the only one we ever knew did not go through the legal proceedings to give us his name.  Therefore we do not have sonship or daughtership. However, there is one who gives us this privilege of being a son our a daughter , Jesus.

Ephesians 1:3-10: I am not sure how many times I have read this passage. I do know that this time; I had a different understanding.  The word sonship in verse 5 struck me. I looked it up it states that this word means full rights under roman rule to be able to inherit. Not just an adopted child, no under Roman law, you need the deeper meaning to be able to carry on the family name, to inherit the family property. In other words, it was a legal process. If you have ever gone through a legal process, you know it is not an easy task.  When my husband adopted my sons, they became his sons.  Although the boys  already considered him dad, they wanted it to be legal, they wanted to change their name. Not only did we have to hire an attorney for us, we had to have meetings with the attorney.  On the next to the last meeting, he informed us that we had to hire an attorney for the deadbeat. We did. Thankfully, it was not near as expensive as our attorney.  We only had to hire him for an hour.  The state of Louisiana looks dimly on deadbeat dads and make it fairly easy for a father to adopt his children, when dealing with a deadbeat. The only purpose the other attorney had was to make sure we did everything we could to notify the genetic donor, that he was losing his parental rights. I mean why shouldn’t he? The actual adoption process took about 20 minutes. He showed us the certified return receipt that he has been served with the warning that he was losing his rights. We verified that he signed the slip. Then the hired attorney for the biological signed over his rights. That was what was in the certified letter, that by accepting this letter, he had so many days to contact the attorney if he intended to hire his own lawyer to contest it, he was accepting that this attorney would act as his agent with the intent of giving up his parental rights. And then, my husband signed that he accepted my sons as his and he would be responsible for them. Then I signed stating I agreed. Then the attorney sent of adoption letters requesting the name change on the birth certificate.  Now both birth certificates have been changed it is as if the biological donor never existed. It shows my husband as being their birth father.  This gave my sons a new inheritance and they are now our sons instead of just mine. Before their legacy was a man that was in and out of jail, a man who injured them physically and mentally. A man that did not visit, did not pay child support, a real looser. Now their legacy is a true father, one that will stand beside them no matter what. A man that loves them, has always been there for him.  I do not know how many times he got up in the middle of the night to go jump a car so the son could come home. Our oldest son is famous for leaving his lights on, locking the keys inside the car, and driving the car into the ditch or a cornfield. Every time, their father was there.  Jesus gives us this inheritance when we accept him as our Lord and Savior.  He gives us the rights to go to the Kingdom of Heaven with Him.  He forgives us and writes our name down in the Book of Life. He does not care about what we did, now all that matters is that we follow Him. The other blessing, is that Jesus is always there. Can’t sleep? Pray. Don’t know what to do, Pray. In those moments when you feel as if you are losing it, if you pray, God will give you peace. Sometimes he gives you the right words to say. Just like my husband does with our sons, he tells them what they need to do.  Does not mean they will listen, but he tells them.  Jesus is the same way, he tells us what to do and how to do it, doesn’t me we will listen, but he tells us. He also calls us His Children.


Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he  predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding, he  made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, 10 to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.

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