Two Sides of the Same Coin

Recently, I was reading about Martha and Mary and I had a new Epiphany.

I went further to the story of Lazarus’ death.  I learned that Martha and Mary are two sides of the same coin.

See in one part of the story Martha is busy with meal preparation and irritated at her sister for not helping.  I always thought perhaps Martha could have made a simpler meal.  I know with my family sometimes those meals where I cook a bit of meat, make some garlic bread, and then throw whatever else is in the fridge onto the table where better than the Thanksgiving meal I spent hours preparing.

I thought Martha didn’t have balance.  I was right to a point. See Martha had faith, she heard what Jesus said and accepted it at once as true. Martha’s problem was is sometimes she gets so busy taking care of others, she forgets to take care of herself. She forgets to study the Word, spend time in prayer, and just being silent listening to God. Yes, all the other stuff that we think of when we say self-care goes with it.  But the bottom line is if we don’t nourish our souls,  all the physical stuff doesn’t matter.

Now let’s talk about Mary.  Mary was the one that needed a bit more instruction.  I am not saying that one way is right and the other way is wrong.  It is just a different side of the same coin. Mary spent more time paying attention to her soul.  Maybe it helped her in the long run who knows. What Mary forgot is that sometimes people around her need help.  Sometimes we have to forget about ourselves and help others.

Both sisters have short comings.  Both need balance.  Previously, I missed that point. Previously, I only saw Martha’s shortcomings.  Maybe the fact that I am a Martha has something to do with it.  But it makes me feel so much better knowing that Mary has short comings as well.

Us, Martha’s we hear and say oh, that is logical, or oh that is not logical, where does it say that in the Bible? Mary’s on the other hand, (and I used to be a Mary) listen and listen and wait forever to develop an opinion. But when we do develop it, it is hard for Mary’s to see a different point of view.

Martha’s on the other hand tend to be open to seeing things in a different light.

Whether you are predominately a Mary or a Martha, you have a tendency to forget the other side of the coin.  Either you forget that you have to apply what you learned, or you forget to spend time learning more.


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