22 Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
I want to also include this passage from Mark 7: 9-13, because it helps what I am going to say. In today’s world, we just expect our teenage children to be disrespective. This is wrong. Our teenage children should not disrespect us.
I knew a teenager that fought with his parents over everything, but he had some adults in his life that told him he was right. They supported his right to disagree but never took the time to teach him logically disagree. By telling this teen that his opinions were right, they unwittingly helped to create the rift that grew in this family. His way was to yell and call his parents lazy. They didn’t make enough money. They should make what his friend’s parents earn. They should buy all the stuff that his friend’s parents buy. (at least that is the way he saw it) Amazingly enough when trouble came the adults that supported him while he disagreed with his parents were no where to be found. See God tells us to avoid people that lead us astray. Unfortunately for us most of us need to figure things out the hard way. The teen paid a heavy price for his own folly. He listened to many people that lead him astray. The Bible tells us to honor our parents, listen to their instructions – over any instructions except for the Bible. Why? Your parents have your best interests at heart. Parents love their children more than anyone else. We want the best for our kids. This is why God tells us to listen to them. Only God loves them more.
I know that there are parents who are addicts, alcoholics, or maybe have serious mental health problems. Even these parents want the best for their child, they are just stuck in a place that what is best for them may not be with the parent. This does not mean that these parents do not have value do not deserve the help to become good parents. Once they have turned their lives around, they deserve a chance. Some sadly may never reach the point where they are able to care for their children, but they will still be the ones that love their children more than anyone else is able to love their children. They should not easily be cast aside.
Although a teenager might have a good argument from their point of view, they do not have the wisdom to make some decisions. But if your child has sound logical reasoning, then build from there for a compromise. But all this about letting children decide for themselves is not good parenting. As parents, we have to teach our children how to make good decisions, push them in the right direction when they make poor choices without condemning.
9 And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death.’ 11 But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is Corban (that is, devoted to God)— 12 then you no longer let them do anything for their father or mother. 13 Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.”