This one is the hardest because of misinterpretations. I don’t want to detract from Proverbs 31 ministries, they do great work. However, there are groups out there that misinterpret this Proverb. They for get that it is a King speaking repeating the words his mother, the Queen taught him. She taught him how to find a good Queen. Not that they qualities can apply to you and I, We just have to remember that this woman was not super woman. She did not “Bring home the Bacon, Fry it up in a pan” She did not keep the house clean, the children feed, take care of all the chores and everything for the children BY HERSELF!. PLEASE LET THAT SINK IN- SHE DID NOT DO EVERYTHING BY HERSELF. She was Queen, she had servants. (verse 15).
It is just saying that a good wife works. It does not mean that you have to have a CAREER other than being wife and mom. Trust me that is work!!!! For those that work outside of the home, you don’t have to do everything by yourself. God made Eve equal to her husband Adam. Genesis 2:18 (an often over-looked verse): 18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
See God made husbands and wives to be partners and if someone is trying to say that you are do to everything the Queen did, just remember she did not do it all alone. She directed everything to be done and she helped do the work. She did not do it all alone.
The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.
2 Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!
3 Do not spend your strength on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
4 It is not for kings, Lemuel—
it is not for kings to drink wine,
not for rulers to crave beer,
5 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,
and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
6 Let beer be for those who are perishing,
wine for those who are in anguish!
7 Let them drink and forget their poverty
and remember their misery no more.
8 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
for the rights of all who are destitute.
9 Speak up and judge fairly;
defend the rights of the poor and needy.
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.