Recently I talked about how hard it is to ask for help. What can be harder is accepting help. You’ve been there. Someone offers to help or asks if you need anything and you turn it down. Claiming that everything is okay, when in truth; you are falling apart.
We don’t want to put anyone out. You are afraid they don’t mean it. You are afraid that your friends won’t want to talk to you any more because you might ask for a favor. Sometimes it is true, when you ask for help sometimes it seems as if people are avoiding you. Accepting help means dropping your pride.
It means accepting that you NEED HELP.
The next question is how do offer help? You know someone in need, you feel the Spirit prompting you to go help, but there is a fear that you will insult them. They will reject your claiming they don’t need it. Maybe it is not your mission to help this person.
Have you prayed about it? Is the Spirit prompting you to help this person? It is not your job to help every need. God shows us who we should help. Say for example you see a person with a sign requesting help. You wonder if you should, are they faking it, should you give money, food, clothing, or just pray with them? Trust God to tell you. God not only tells you who you should help, but how. If you do not feel the Spirit prompting you to help, don’t feel guilty. There is a drive at church, I want to be a good Christian, but I am not feeling any pull to give this charity. They came to our church; and I want to look good. If that is your motivation, then don’t help. Your motivation to help someone should not be about you. It should be about sharing God’s love with someone. If you are hesitant about accepting help allow the help. You have asked God, Right? Then trust he is giving you the help that you have requested. Even if the person offering the hand of help is someone that you don’t like.