Love your neighbor-even the annoying one-HA

We have a neighbor that makes this extremely difficult, throws trash in our back yard to include chicken bones that could seriously hurt our dogs.  Speaking of dogs, he breed his then kept them locked up separate from their mother except for a few hours a day so she could feed them – only after a visit from the humane society. He and his significant other have drunk arguments until the wee hours of the morning OUTSIDE. When he is not drunk, he is polite keeps his lawn mowed, over waters the lawn running into ours. (oops that is another negative)

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He probably doesn’t like that we struggle to keep ours mowed especially this year. We aren’t perfect neighbors, our lawn and house need work.

I am sure everyone has a neighbor that they don’t exactly like.  I know some of our neighbors don’t exactly like us.  The one complains about how we need to paint our house and fix the driveway all the time.

I remember the one time that I tried to talk to her; she just ignored me.  Her dog had gotten out of the yard when they were gone.  We placed the dog in our back yard.  I just waited for one of the kids to get home.

So how do you love that neighbor?  What can you do?  Sometimes the best way you can show love to your neighbor is to pray for them.  I try not to make my prayer sound grumble grumble.  Instead I try to say Dear Lord, he is drinking in his hot tub alone again Lord, Keep him from passing out.  In my imperfect human mind, at this time it is the best I can manage.  I pray that God helps me in this because I know on my own; yeah there are nights when they are screaming obscenities at each other and I have to get up in the morning, I have very unkind thoughts running through my head. So on my own, there is no way that I can love them.  On my own, the best I can do is smile and wave when they go by.  Smile and wave when we are all outside. But with Jesus’ help someday I will show them His love.  Just Lord forgive me it is not today they are yelling again.  Tomorrow I will try again but for tonight, I am just going to try to ignore them.

Leviticus 19: 17-18:  17 “‘Do not hate a fellow Israelite in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in their guilt.

18 “‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.

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#ProverbsChallenge Day 30 God Cares for you

24 “Four things on earth are small,                  ant
    yet they are extremely wise:
25 Ants are creatures of little strength,
    yet they store up their food in the summer;
26 hyraxes are creatures of little power,
    yet they make their home in the crags;
27 locusts have no king,
    yet they advance together in ranks;
28 a lizard can be caught with the hand,
    yet it is found in kings’ palaces.

The smallest things of God’s creations are noticed by God.  Believe that he sees you and cares for you.

#ProverbsChallenge Day 29

10 The bloodthirsty hate a person of integrity and seek to kill the upright.

The Pharisees were blood thirsty.  They had a man of integrity killed.

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God even uses the fools to complete his perfect plan of salvation.

Because the Pharisees proved to be fools; yet God used them to bring our Salvation.

Think about some time in your life where God used evil to bring good.

Proverbs Challenge Day 28

Keep going you are almost through the challenge!

Evildoers do not understand what is right, but those who seek the Lord understand it fully.

God is the Light and when we pursue the light, we become more like the LIGHT!

I know it is hard t always do the right thing.  Someone cut me off this morning and my first instinct was to rush up on them and put on my high beams and blow my horn at them.  Instead I just said oh well, no harm done.  I didn’t have an accident.  Not my monkey.  truck passing adjusted

The old me, before I really started journeying with Christ, was a bit more aggressive. However, with Christ I am learning to let go of things that are not in my control.  The Jac-O’s are things that I can’t control.  Like the “snail” race on the highway.  We can’t do anything about it so let it go.  At least until there is a chance to get around the truck that the other trucks are passing.  But if we respond aggressively, we become as big of a threat as the Jac-O that cut us off.

P.S.  if you are from Pittsburgh the term Jac-O needs no explanation.  If you are, it is not very nice.

Proverbs Challenge Day 27 Being the Light

19 As water reflects the face,  so one’s life reflects the heart.

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Even when we think no one is watching someone is watching.  When we behave poorly there is someone that sees.  Unfortunately, if someone sees us behaving poorly, it takes a long time to undo the damage.  This is true even if it was an isolated incident.

We are no longer able to positively influence those that have seen or heard about an incident where we have behaved in a less than Christian manner.  It is sad if it is our kids.  We are charged with bringing up our children as Godly people.  If our example is not Godly how can we raise them correctly?

I know that it is impossible to be perfect, and one oops doesn’t put our Light out.  However, we need to strive to Godly examples.  If people see that we are good examples most of the time, they will still see God in us.

Proverbs Challenge Day 26 Gossip

Can you believe how quickly this  challenge is going ? 😗

20 Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.

Ever live in a small town?  Then you understand that news gets spread faster than a wild fire.  We lived in a small town, my neighbor, the doctor’s wife, knew I was pregnant before I could tell my husband.  She ruined the surprise for me. She meant well.

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If the news is bad, everyone looks at you out of the corner of their eye and starts whispering. Unless it is a death the person, family feels as if they are shunned.

I would like to suggest an alternative idea.  Instead of gossiping about them and giving them side long glances, how about being a shoulder.  Maybe you could bring them a meal. Maybe you could be a friend

 

Proverbs Challenge Day 25: Forgive

My apologies this is a day late. But I actually chose a verse about this.  self-control also know as self-discipline.  Often when we fail it is our own fault.  We plan well, we have a good idea, but we lack on the execution. Yesterday’s failure was a lack of planning.         forgive

How to have  a much needed family fun day, and still post the daily proverbs challenge?  The answer is easy take a some time before the event. But see I let the day take itself and  blew off this challenge. Instead of beating myself up and dropping it because I failed; I forgave myself because we all make mistakes.  When we make a mistake, we look at it decide what went wrong and then pick it back up.  If the plan or idea was bad, we adjust.  However, if the reason is poor execution, then we pick up were we left off and fix the problem.   Remembering that is what the cross is about: FORGIVENESS

28 Like a city whose walls are broken through  is a person who lacks self-control.

Proverbs Challenge Day 24 lying

26 An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. 

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Everyone hates to discover that they have been lied to.  It is a horrible feeling when someone tells you a lie. Especially if they are someone that you love, you know the inner circle.  Yet we justify lies all the time.  I didn’t want to hurt their feelings.  I would rather you tell me the truth. The worst is when someone is pretending to be your friend, but they are plotting behind your back.  

So if God doesn’t like for us to lie, and we are supposed to treat others the way we want to be treated; then why do we tell lies?

My challenge for you is to face a situation where you would normally lie, and tell the truth.

Proverbs Challenge day 23 (long read)

22 Listen to your father, who gave you life,  and do not despise your mother when she is old.

I want to also include this passage from Mark 7: 9-13, because it helps what I am going to say. In today’s world, we just expect our teenage children to be disrespective.  This is wrong. Our teenage children should not disrespect us.

I knew a teenager that fought with his parents over everything, but he had some adults in his life that told him he was right.  They supported his right to disagree but never took the time to teach him logically disagree. By telling this teen that his opinions were right, they unwittingly helped to create the rift that grew in this family.  His way was to yell and call his parents lazy.  They didn’t make enough money.  They should make what his friend’s parents earn. They should buy all the stuff that his friend’s parents buy. (at least that is the way he saw it) Amazingly enough when trouble came the adults that supported him  while he disagreed with his parents were no where to be found.  See God tells us to avoid people that lead us astray.  Unfortunately for us most of us need to figure things out the hard way.  The teen paid a heavy price for his own folly.  He listened to many people that lead him astray.  The Bible tells us to honor our parents, listen to their instructions – over any instructions except for the Bible. Why? Your parents have your best interests at heart. Parents love their children more than anyone else. We want the best for our kids. This is why God tells us to listen to them. Only God loves them more.

I know that there are parents who are addicts, alcoholics, or maybe have serious mental health problems.  Even these parents want the best for their child, they are just stuck in a place that what is best for them may not be with the parent. This does not mean that these parents do not have value do not deserve the help to become good parents. Once they have turned their lives around, they deserve a chance. Some sadly may never reach the point where they are able to care for their children, but they will still be the ones that love their children more than anyone else is able to love their children. They should not easily be cast aside.

Although a teenager might have a good argument from their point of view, they do not have the wisdom to make some decisions.  But if your child has sound logical reasoning, then build from there for a compromise. But all this about letting children decide for themselves is not good parenting. As parents, we have to teach our children how to make good decisions, push them in the right direction when they make poor choices without condemning.

Mark 7:9-12:

And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death.’ 11 But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is Corban (that is, devoted to God)— 12 then you no longer let them do anything for their father or mother. 13 Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.”

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