By Grace

As some of you know, This spring God gave me a “reset”.  God had been telling me that I have been doing things wrong for sometime.  But I didn’t take the time to figure out what exactly he meant.  I kept seeing all this stuff about self-care.  I thought that it meant doing stuff for myself.  The truth never dawned on me.  I need to learn to slow down, relax.  I had this faulty thought process. I thought I needed to be doing something every waking hour.  I was always tired. I always felt behind. No matter how hard I worked; it was never enough things were not how I wanted them to be. If that sounds familiar, maybe God is speaking to you as well.

It has been a long summer as I learn the hard way how to slow down.  How to take time to read his word, pray, and be quiet listening for His instructions.

I have been changing habits and have come to realize that self-care has nothing to do with going to the spa and being pampered. It has nothing to do with making sure my outfit is just right, putting on make up, and fixing my hair.  Those things are what we do so the world accepts us. Sure looking nice can make us feel good. It gives us positive attention.  However, if you are reading this with baby and/or dog slobber all over you; just remember you are still the same person who was all dressed up looking sharp.

YOU ARE STILL BEAUTIFUL

Caring for yourself means developing your relationship with God, and the people he has put in your life. It means exercising and eating healthy.  It means telling yourself that it is okay the dishes are not done, I need to rest, read my Bible, or just be still.

It means on the day that you only get half of what you set out to do; that it is okay, you are not a failure. FORGIVE YOURSELF.

FORGIVING YOURSELF IS A HUGE PART OF SELF-CARE.

Accepting that you only have so many hours in a day and what gets done gets done and rest is important.  I know your in-laws are on their way, the house looks as if two little hurricanes hit it, there are dishes in the sink and you look as if you haven’t taken a shower in days. Oh and did I mention the meal is only partially started, you have to run to the store for a crucial ingredient like the meat.

Self-Care says oh well if my in-laws don’t like it then it is their problem. They need to accept the fact that you are not perfect. Only Jesus is perfect.

We get through each day by Grace.  God gives us the strength to do everything that is necessary. Everything else, well it will just have to wait until there is time.

One last thought we still need to organize and plan; but we must also pray about our plans.  God will say yea or nay.

Accept that there may be days when other things are just more important.

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#LivingThankfully

Generally we think of giving Thanks unto the Lord.  But what about the people in your life?  #GivingThanks

And how do I start Living Thankfully?  #ThankfulLife

They say it takes 2 weeks to develop a habit.  Well, in my experience it takes two weeks just to decide if you want to put that much effort into changing a bad habit.

Then another two weeks to get started.  Then two weeks of practicing, two more weeks of concentrating of the habit being consistent.  Forgiving yourself if you miss a day. Then about 2 – 3 more weeks of thinking am I doing my new habit consistently?

the next stepEventually you stop thinking about it and doing it.

I am engaging in developing a thankful life.

The first step is to thank God for something once a day.

Step number two was to thank him for something twice a day.

Then we increase the number from one thank to two.

There were times when I had to ask God for forgiveness because I was just saying Thank You God just for the sake of saying it.

Next step is a bit harder.  You thank people around you for something. Starting with each member of your immediate family.  Thank them for one thing a day.

Learning to live a Thankful Life is probably going to take around 6 months to a year.

Each time you forget, then you have to ask for forgiveness and then forgive yourself.forgiveness

Don’t listen to Satan’s lies about how much a failure you are and PICK UP FROM WHERE YOU LEFT OFF. Don’t start all over again just start where you left off.  If you are at two thankful to God times and one thankful to each member of your immediately family; then you start right at that point. Going back and starting again just gives Satan a door to mock you.

Starting from where you were says “I made a mistake. I didn’t ruin all my efforts from one little mistake.  It works with changing your diet as well.

Love your neighbor-even the annoying one-HA

We have a neighbor that makes this extremely difficult, throws trash in our back yard to include chicken bones that could seriously hurt our dogs.  Speaking of dogs, he breed his then kept them locked up separate from their mother except for a few hours a day so she could feed them – only after a visit from the humane society. He and his significant other have drunk arguments until the wee hours of the morning OUTSIDE. When he is not drunk, he is polite keeps his lawn mowed, over waters the lawn running into ours. (oops that is another negative)

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He probably doesn’t like that we struggle to keep ours mowed especially this year. We aren’t perfect neighbors, our lawn and house need work.

I am sure everyone has a neighbor that they don’t exactly like.  I know some of our neighbors don’t exactly like us.  The one complains about how we need to paint our house and fix the driveway all the time.

I remember the one time that I tried to talk to her; she just ignored me.  Her dog had gotten out of the yard when they were gone.  We placed the dog in our back yard.  I just waited for one of the kids to get home.

So how do you love that neighbor?  What can you do?  Sometimes the best way you can show love to your neighbor is to pray for them.  I try not to make my prayer sound grumble grumble.  Instead I try to say Dear Lord, he is drinking in his hot tub alone again Lord, Keep him from passing out.  In my imperfect human mind, at this time it is the best I can manage.  I pray that God helps me in this because I know on my own; yeah there are nights when they are screaming obscenities at each other and I have to get up in the morning, I have very unkind thoughts running through my head. So on my own, there is no way that I can love them.  On my own, the best I can do is smile and wave when they go by.  Smile and wave when we are all outside. But with Jesus’ help someday I will show them His love.  Just Lord forgive me it is not today they are yelling again.  Tomorrow I will try again but for tonight, I am just going to try to ignore them.

Leviticus 19: 17-18:  17 “‘Do not hate a fellow Israelite in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in their guilt.

18 “‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.

#ProverbsChallenge Day 29

10 The bloodthirsty hate a person of integrity and seek to kill the upright.

The Pharisees were blood thirsty.  They had a man of integrity killed.

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God even uses the fools to complete his perfect plan of salvation.

Because the Pharisees proved to be fools; yet God used them to bring our Salvation.

Think about some time in your life where God used evil to bring good.

Proverbs Challenge Day 28

Keep going you are almost through the challenge!

Evildoers do not understand what is right, but those who seek the Lord understand it fully.

God is the Light and when we pursue the light, we become more like the LIGHT!

I know it is hard t always do the right thing.  Someone cut me off this morning and my first instinct was to rush up on them and put on my high beams and blow my horn at them.  Instead I just said oh well, no harm done.  I didn’t have an accident.  Not my monkey.  truck passing adjusted

The old me, before I really started journeying with Christ, was a bit more aggressive. However, with Christ I am learning to let go of things that are not in my control.  The Jac-O’s are things that I can’t control.  Like the “snail” race on the highway.  We can’t do anything about it so let it go.  At least until there is a chance to get around the truck that the other trucks are passing.  But if we respond aggressively, we become as big of a threat as the Jac-O that cut us off.

P.S.  if you are from Pittsburgh the term Jac-O needs no explanation.  If you are, it is not very nice.

Proverbs Challenge Day 27 Being the Light

19 As water reflects the face,  so one’s life reflects the heart.

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Even when we think no one is watching someone is watching.  When we behave poorly there is someone that sees.  Unfortunately, if someone sees us behaving poorly, it takes a long time to undo the damage.  This is true even if it was an isolated incident.

We are no longer able to positively influence those that have seen or heard about an incident where we have behaved in a less than Christian manner.  It is sad if it is our kids.  We are charged with bringing up our children as Godly people.  If our example is not Godly how can we raise them correctly?

I know that it is impossible to be perfect, and one oops doesn’t put our Light out.  However, we need to strive to Godly examples.  If people see that we are good examples most of the time, they will still see God in us.

Proverbs Challenge Day 25: Forgive

My apologies this is a day late. But I actually chose a verse about this.  self-control also know as self-discipline.  Often when we fail it is our own fault.  We plan well, we have a good idea, but we lack on the execution. Yesterday’s failure was a lack of planning.         forgive

How to have  a much needed family fun day, and still post the daily proverbs challenge?  The answer is easy take a some time before the event. But see I let the day take itself and  blew off this challenge. Instead of beating myself up and dropping it because I failed; I forgave myself because we all make mistakes.  When we make a mistake, we look at it decide what went wrong and then pick it back up.  If the plan or idea was bad, we adjust.  However, if the reason is poor execution, then we pick up were we left off and fix the problem.   Remembering that is what the cross is about: FORGIVENESS

28 Like a city whose walls are broken through  is a person who lacks self-control.

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