life changes learning how to slow the pace

Hello,

I am just writing a few words about #LifeWithJeus.

There are days when at the end of the day, I feel like I am losing while other days, I think I am winning.  There are days when I go to bed so exhausted that I have trouble going to sleep.  My vitals are monitored daily.  I hate to do it because if the numbers aren’t low enough, then I am stressed which doesn’t help anything.  But through all this Jesus has been there.  He is teaching me that what the doctors and I think are most important are not always important.  Sitting for half an hour to get the stress free BP can be annoying. But It is necessary.  So I pray and ask God to help me be patient.

Through this, I have realized that I have lost focus on the big picture.  Jesus.

The picture is clear, I see it in my mind’s eye.  Today I heard a clear message, stop worrying about my health and return to living.  Sure I need to pay attention to following my doctor’s advice; I just can’t make it my main focus. (Please don’t tell my husband)

He is still in the “I almost lost you stage”.  I have been so focused on staying calm, that it is all I do.  What I should be focusing on is Jesus.  He is telling me to focus on not rushing.  See my health went south because I rushed and rushed but I never got ahead. There was always something that if this were… I was trying to make everything perfect.  Because everyone would be happy if everything were perfect.  The truth is I was making everyone miserable trying to make everything perfect.  I was not happy.  I knew my vitals were bad but I didn’t take them enough to convince anyone that things were horrible wrong.  I heard people say take care of yourself.  Sure I do.  No I didn’t.  I thought I did.  I would get my hair done regularly, I worried that my outfit matched, shaved my legs, checked myself for cuts or bruises that weren’t healing.

That is not taking care of yourself.  That is making yourself presentable to the world.  What the world doesn’t realize is that I don’t care if things are out-of-place or mismatched. it is a huge stressful chore worrying about all that stuff.

Taking care of yourself means eating well, getting sleep, spending time with Jesus. Finding time to relax.  Each person relaxes in a different way.  Some people find playing Candy Crush relaxing Okay great for you.

I find baking relaxing.  I need to find people to eat the back goods.  I an accomplished baker. If it goes in the oven I got it.  If it is on top of the stove, well it is good but not great. I bake casseroles, cakes, cookies, meatloaf, spaghetti sauce, brownies, pies, (okay I am weak on pies), chicken – I do bake a pot pie that is out of this world good.  I am not such a hot pizza pie baker.  I am also not the best bread baker.  I either forget the bread and am baking at midnight or I don’t start it soon enough and hasn’t had enough time to raise.

Baking makes me think about how Jesus is with us.  We want to take short cuts, but in baking short cuts ruin everything. Jesus wants us to go through all the paces.

Trying to jump through the steps is like baking bread without any salt.

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#ProverbsChallenge Day 31 The Hardest one

This one is the hardest because of misinterpretations.  I don’t want to detract from Proverbs 31 ministries, they do great work.  However, there are groups out there that misinterpret this Proverb.  They for get that it is a King speaking repeating the words his mother, the Queen taught him.  She taught him how to find a good Queen.  Not that they qualities can apply to you and I,  We just have to remember that this woman was not super woman.  She did not “Bring home the Bacon, Fry it up in a pan”  She did not keep the house clean, the children feed, take care of all the chores and everything for the children BY HERSELF!.  PLEASE LET THAT SINK IN- SHE DID NOT DO EVERYTHING BY HERSELF.  She was  Queen, she had servants.  (verse 15).  

It is just saying that a good wife works.  It does not mean that you have to have a CAREER other than being wife and mom.  Trust me that is work!!!! For those that work outside of the home, you don’t have to do everything by yourself.  God made Eve equal to her husband Adam.  Genesis 2:18 (an often over-looked verse):  18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

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See God made husbands and wives to be partners and if someone is trying to say that you are do to everything the Queen did, just remember she did not do it all alone.  She directed everything to be done and she helped do the work. She did not do it all alone.

 

The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.

Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
    Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!
Do not spend your strength on women,
    your vigor on those who ruin kings.

It is not for kings, Lemuel—
    it is not for kings to drink wine,
    not for rulers to crave beer,
lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,
    and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
Let beer be for those who are perishing,
    wine for those who are in anguish!
Let them drink and forget their poverty
    and remember their misery no more.

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
    for the rights of all who are destitute.
Speak up and judge fairly;
    defend the rights of the poor and needy.

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

#ProverbsChallenge Day 29

10 The bloodthirsty hate a person of integrity and seek to kill the upright.

The Pharisees were blood thirsty.  They had a man of integrity killed.

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God even uses the fools to complete his perfect plan of salvation.

Because the Pharisees proved to be fools; yet God used them to bring our Salvation.

Think about some time in your life where God used evil to bring good.

Proverbs Challenge Day 27 Being the Light

19 As water reflects the face,  so one’s life reflects the heart.

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Even when we think no one is watching someone is watching.  When we behave poorly there is someone that sees.  Unfortunately, if someone sees us behaving poorly, it takes a long time to undo the damage.  This is true even if it was an isolated incident.

We are no longer able to positively influence those that have seen or heard about an incident where we have behaved in a less than Christian manner.  It is sad if it is our kids.  We are charged with bringing up our children as Godly people.  If our example is not Godly how can we raise them correctly?

I know that it is impossible to be perfect, and one oops doesn’t put our Light out.  However, we need to strive to Godly examples.  If people see that we are good examples most of the time, they will still see God in us.

Proverbs Challenge Day 25: Forgive

My apologies this is a day late. But I actually chose a verse about this.  self-control also know as self-discipline.  Often when we fail it is our own fault.  We plan well, we have a good idea, but we lack on the execution. Yesterday’s failure was a lack of planning.         forgive

How to have  a much needed family fun day, and still post the daily proverbs challenge?  The answer is easy take a some time before the event. But see I let the day take itself and  blew off this challenge. Instead of beating myself up and dropping it because I failed; I forgave myself because we all make mistakes.  When we make a mistake, we look at it decide what went wrong and then pick it back up.  If the plan or idea was bad, we adjust.  However, if the reason is poor execution, then we pick up were we left off and fix the problem.   Remembering that is what the cross is about: FORGIVENESS

28 Like a city whose walls are broken through  is a person who lacks self-control.

Proverbs Challenge Day 24 lying

26 An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. 

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Everyone hates to discover that they have been lied to.  It is a horrible feeling when someone tells you a lie. Especially if they are someone that you love, you know the inner circle.  Yet we justify lies all the time.  I didn’t want to hurt their feelings.  I would rather you tell me the truth. The worst is when someone is pretending to be your friend, but they are plotting behind your back.  

So if God doesn’t like for us to lie, and we are supposed to treat others the way we want to be treated; then why do we tell lies?

My challenge for you is to face a situation where you would normally lie, and tell the truth.

Proverbs Challenge day 23 (long read)

22 Listen to your father, who gave you life,  and do not despise your mother when she is old.

I want to also include this passage from Mark 7: 9-13, because it helps what I am going to say. In today’s world, we just expect our teenage children to be disrespective.  This is wrong. Our teenage children should not disrespect us.

I knew a teenager that fought with his parents over everything, but he had some adults in his life that told him he was right.  They supported his right to disagree but never took the time to teach him logically disagree. By telling this teen that his opinions were right, they unwittingly helped to create the rift that grew in this family.  His way was to yell and call his parents lazy.  They didn’t make enough money.  They should make what his friend’s parents earn. They should buy all the stuff that his friend’s parents buy. (at least that is the way he saw it) Amazingly enough when trouble came the adults that supported him  while he disagreed with his parents were no where to be found.  See God tells us to avoid people that lead us astray.  Unfortunately for us most of us need to figure things out the hard way.  The teen paid a heavy price for his own folly.  He listened to many people that lead him astray.  The Bible tells us to honor our parents, listen to their instructions – over any instructions except for the Bible. Why? Your parents have your best interests at heart. Parents love their children more than anyone else. We want the best for our kids. This is why God tells us to listen to them. Only God loves them more.

I know that there are parents who are addicts, alcoholics, or maybe have serious mental health problems.  Even these parents want the best for their child, they are just stuck in a place that what is best for them may not be with the parent. This does not mean that these parents do not have value do not deserve the help to become good parents. Once they have turned their lives around, they deserve a chance. Some sadly may never reach the point where they are able to care for their children, but they will still be the ones that love their children more than anyone else is able to love their children. They should not easily be cast aside.

Although a teenager might have a good argument from their point of view, they do not have the wisdom to make some decisions.  But if your child has sound logical reasoning, then build from there for a compromise. But all this about letting children decide for themselves is not good parenting. As parents, we have to teach our children how to make good decisions, push them in the right direction when they make poor choices without condemning.

Mark 7:9-12:

And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death.’ 11 But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is Corban (that is, devoted to God)— 12 then you no longer let them do anything for their father or mother. 13 Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.”

Proverbs Challenge Day 15

Proverbs 15:18, is a verse whose message has been repeated throughout Proverbs.  I have had to correct this in my own life.  My husband, by the way, is the calm one,without his calmness and ability to correctly deal with my hot-temperateness; we would not be celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary this month.   I was guilty of being the woman that tore down her house (Proverbs 14:1).  However, ugly we may become, there is always hope when we read the Word of God, He works within our heart and changes us.  #FRESHSTARTS #SECONDCHANCES

18 A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel

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