A few words

Now that we have finished #ProverbsChallenge: I have been wondering where I am going.

There are a few things that I have in the works.  I am working with someone to bring awareness to the epidemic of suicide. Later, I will publish a flyer with dates and times for my Nebraska friends.  September is Suicide Prevention month. I will write about veteran suicide as well.  As a veteran this is a concern for me.

I am also trying to get some things together for Domestic Violence Awareness Month Which is in October. If you remember I posted about Domestic violence throughout October 2017.   This year, I would like to talk about it.  I haven’t found a venue, but I am looking.  If you are in Nebraska and need someone to speak to your group about Domestic Violence, I am available.  I am a domestic violence survivor.

Then there is Thanksgiving and Christmas. But I haven’t thought that far ahead.

I am available for woman’s conferences, and teaching people how to think outside the box.  Interested?  Message me @bible.studier.lady@gmail.com

 

 

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Something Bigger than yourself.

Last night I watched a few Super Bowl commercials with the theme of unity.  The unity was such a big part of the commercial that I really don’t remember whose  commercial.  Part of that theme was service to others, getting involved, being something bigger than yourself.

In James 2, he mentions that faith without deeds is dead. My prayer today, is God show me what more I can do.

This concept that faith without deeds being dead, begs the question ‘I thought that salvation is free’? Salvation is free.  However, Jesus commanded us to “#LOVE one another”.

So what James is really saying is that we have to do for our fellow-man, just as Jesus did to show the same #LOVE to people who Jesus did. After all, he healed the sick, showed mercy to sinners (like me), and raised the dead.

THIS THEME OF UNITY AT A SUPER BOWL COMMERCIAL? RECENTLY, I HAVE SEEN THIS ON A FEW OTHER COMMERCIALS AS WELL. It strikes me funny that the advertisement world is turning on its ear.  A business that is centered around making money is now focusing on #PEOPLE?   

For the word of the Lord is right and true; he is faithful in all he does. The Lord loves righteousness and justice; the earth is full of his unfailing love.

Psalm 33:4-5 NIV

Domestic Violence Awareness

October is Domestic Violence Awareness as a 25 year survivor, I feel a need to talk about some of the misconceptions.

The relationship starts with the aggressor placing the future victim on a pedestal and then proceeds to make them better.

Victims are weak minded people. I have a friend that lost her life to domestic violence.  She is the best example that I know to dispute this myth.  My friend was an NCO in the United States Army.  She was one of my mentors teaching me how to advance my military career. It was a time when women had to be better than everyone else to advance she was neither physically nor mentally weak.

She went to a public place to get her husband to sign divorce papers, he shot her, leaving their two children parentless.

This brings another myth: aggressors only abuse in private, while this is generally true; my friend was shot in a public place, knowingly in front of a video camera. After he shot her, he looked directly at the camera and waited for the police to arrive.

Another misconception: aggressors grew up in abusive situations.  While there are documented case studies demonstrating this, it is not always true. My friend’s husband was thought to be well-balanced, had a dream childhood.  He had two educated parents. He was very well-educated, PhD level educated.

My own experience also contradicts this myth.  My ex-husband was educated and grew up in a “Leave-it-to-Beaver” household.  His family was well-to-do.  For some reason it shocks people to learn that he tried to run me over with a car.

By the way, I am considered to be a strong woman as well as being educated.

There are two thoughts I want to leave with you.  One is the aggressor generally isolates their victims by keeping them away from friends and family. Often making them feel as if they are dependant on them.  For a time, you are weak-minded but that is not what is generally thought of many survivors or victims.

Domestic violence does not start with physical abuse. It starts with verbal abuse disguised as trying to help.

Statements like you would look better if…

This chicken is great but it would taste better if…

The house looks great but it would be better if …

Nothing is ever perfect and the victim wanting to have the praise that was present when they first started the relationship, strives to do things better.  That is how they get you into that weak-minded state. When the first hit occurs, you are shocked and find it easy to believe that it was a mistake. Agree to counseling, expecting change.

By the time they are trying to run you over with a car; that is when you know it is get out of you will be another dead statistic. And yes, for  the vicitm to become a survivor, they have to realize the aggressor will never change. It generally takes a big shock or a really caring person to approach them personally.  Not condeming or asking the question why don’t you just leave.  The compassionate person shows them How they can leave. My friend had another NCO tell them about an Army program that would help them leave.  Not only did he tell her, he took her there.

When we advised her to meet him in a public place, we never dreamed he would shot her.

God will give you exactly what you need

Joshua 1:7-9:  It is amazing how God gives you what you need exactly when you need it.

Lately, I have been feeling weak and helpless.  A few weeks ago the muscles in my legs were twisting and I had to use uncomfortable braces to straighten them. (This is from an injury I received about 15 years ago)

There are stretches I am supposed to do to avoid this but I was being lax on stretching. And my muscles had started to twist. This means, that I had to pull out my uncomfortable braces. I wear them for a period then remove them.  During a period of not wearing them, I severely twisted my right ankle.

I could hardly walk.  Even with the braces on,  each step was forced.  leaving me feeling exhausted.   I couldn’t take my daily refreshing walk and was feeling weak and defeated.

Then I read this:

“Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Sweet in the mouth but bitter in the stomach

 

Revelation 10:9-11: In life, there are good deals and there are bad deals.  There are also bad deals that you can see up-front, and then there are the bad deals that look great, at first, but you quickly regret.

Take for example the biological father of my children, my ex-husband. When we first meet, he nursed me through a miscarriage.  He was as sweet as could be.  So sweet in fact that when he started discouraging my friends from being around, I did not notice.  First it was the one whom I was helping to understand his German wife. Then there was the friend that was my boss and was teaching me about guys; something of which, I knew very little.  When our first son was born; he was marvelous, except for that incident at the mall.  I had just moved to sweatpants (from a size 3), and this size 3 walked by and he turned his head and whistled.  Yeah, I know those things should have warned me.  But he was treating me like a princess, well like the princess in the tower, but none the less a princess. Then when I was pregnant 14 months after having the first, that is when everything started to crumble. But back then a pregnant woman, with a toddler, well I could have sold roses on the roadside that was about it or delivered newspapers, which is what I did.  Trust me neither job pays the bills. After I was strong, 2 C-sections, and two babies, and gestational diabetes; makes one weak. I got a job, not an excellent job, but we lived in a town of 12,000.  There are not were not many IT jobs in small towns 20 some years ago.  I was a waitress and I worked at a fast-food place. Then I became a manager at a fast-food place, excellent job for a transplant, now pending divorce from one of the town’s blessed sons.  My ex-husband’s family was one of the town’s builders.  Which meant I was as popular as a wet blanket. Now divorced I took a job at the factory, best money in town. The marriage to a man I thought was prince charming, turned out to taste sweet in the mouth but turned sour in the belly.

Here is the thing, If I had been close with God when I met him, I would have heard the warnings, the sirens going off. If I had been raised with men around, I might have seen the warning signs. (not my mother’s fault, she had to raise us by herself.) However, not ever being around men, I had no idea how men were supposed to behave. Being raised in the church, with the ideology that everyone is honest and good, I was naïve, until I meet my husband of 20 some years, but that is a different story. I have learned the hard way about something tasting sweet in the mouth and bitter in the stomach.  If I had been more diligent in my studies  of the Bible, If I had listened to all the wisdom of God, that I had been taught in Sunday School; I would have known. That is one of our downfalls, we think just because we are smart, we are wise. The only true wisdom comes from God.

 

So I went to the angel and asked him to give me the little scroll. He said to me, “Take it and eat it. It will turn your stomach sour, but ‘in your mouth it will be as sweet as honey.’” 10 I took the little scroll from the angel’s hand and ate it. It tasted as sweet as honey in my mouth, but when I had eaten it, my stomach turned sour. 11 Then I was told, “You must prophesy again about many peoples, nations, languages and kings.”

Does helping others really help you?

There are so many pleas for our dollars and it is often overwhelming. Hurricane Harvey victims, pets, homeless, the family with the sign asking for money, veteran help agencies, St Jude’s hospital.  Each a good cause, each asking for money.  You know it is the right thing to do, but when is enough?  Deuteronomy 15:11: There will always be poor people in the land. Therefore I command you to be open handed toward your fellow Israelites who are poor and needy in your land. Which charities should you help.  The church alway wants money. Charity starts at home.  Recently someone said if things are not right at home, and you try to help others, you will not be successful. If the home falls apart then life is a mess and  when you are in chaos helping others, well it might just be too much.  Sure helping others takes the focus off of you. It can be a two edged sword. Also at home there are problems and then there are PROBLEMS. If you are having everyday problems at home, helping others will take the negative focus and turn it into positive energy.  However, if you are having PROBLEMS, then focus on the home.  Fix it and then you can help others.  It is the log in the eye versus the speck in the eye.  Which still does not answer the question to whom should I give my money?  The Bible tells us 10%.  Recently I told someone that if you are giving money to God’s work, then it counts as the 10%.  What if you want to do more?  This is my advice, pray and ask God commit your plans to the Lord and God will keep your path straight. You do not have to give to every charity that comes your way.  Trust God and he will let you know which ones are worth your attention. 

Helping others helps you because one, you are working for God’s kingdom. When you work for God’s Kingdom there are always blessings (does not necessarily mean monetary). More often than not you will feel better about yourself.  Feeling Better about yourself is worth a million dollars.

What if the Eclipse is ….

As we approach the Eclipse, there is a lot of excitement and people are pouring into Nebraska, and other states in the path. People ask if you have you glasses.  But there is also another thought what if this is the beginning of the End? What if it is? If you have read Revelations, you might be thinking, it is the beginning of the End. If it is, are you ready?  Do you have the seal of God?  And what exactly is the seal of God? Well, when you accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, the Holy Spirit, the advocate, the helper, The Holy Ghost, there are many names used.  But in Acts 2, when the Holy Spirit was sent to the disciples, He was promised to future believers as well.  The seal of God is The Holy Spirit. We say Jesus lives in us. The powers of evil recognize God in you.  Think about it, when you are around other Christians, you can feel the Holy Spirit in the room?  Especially if worship is involved. It is that warm fuzzy feeling that you feel when in worship. Satan can see your light. Remember Jesus said we are the light of the world. In Revelation 8, describes the scene of those are sealed and it says the numbers are too great to count. Let that sink in, too great to count. There is also 144,000 of God’s chosen people (before Jesus’s sacrifice, people of Israel). But of the Gentiles, the numbers are too great to count. If it is the beginning of the End, and you have Jesus as your savior, Your are ready.

ARE YOU READY? DO YOU HAVE THE SEAL OF SALVATION?

The hard thing about being a diabetic

is everything.  Besides the medication and its side effects, there is a diet to watch, remembering to exercise, checking for cuts and bruises and making sure they heal properly. There is the other crazy stuff.

Common comments:  (Comments I wish I could avoid)

them: I wish I could watch my diet as well as you do.

Me:   I have to watch it, not watching means a trip to the ER

Them:  you can cheat on your diet and try this dessert I made.

Me:  I can’t eat the whole thing, but I will try a couple of bites.

Them: I thought our friendship meant more that you could give me an opinion of my baking.

Me:  I did that before I had diabetes in a couple of bites, why should now be different?

Them: Why are you always wearing a bandage?

Me:  When I test my blood sugars sometimes I bleed. (for the fortieth time)

The interesting thing about being a diabetic, is I can use all those meal/snack times to read the word.  You don’t have to read God’s word in big chunks, you can read it a little bit at a time. It is actually better that way.  If you read a few verses at a time, it is easier to digest.  Think about the Thanksgiving meal how full you feel afterwards, how little you feel like doing.  Now think about how energized you are after a healthy protein/carb balanced snack. If you read God’s word and think about what you have read, then go back and read some more; you will gain the understanding. Through understanding comes the wisdom of God.

Being a Christian is similar to being a diabetic, you make the changes one step at a time. You change your diet one step at a time.

You change your Bible reading habits one step at a time.

The Greatest love of all

John 13: 34-35:

First Spring Flowers
Just like Spring, Jesus makes all things new

34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Christ loved us so much he died for us.  He is not asking us to die for one another.  He just says love one another.

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